Share the load : Story Of A Indian Middle Class Man

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India is in a metamorphosis. Education levels of female are increasing, however the amount of women who work and share the financial load is very less. But the standards, the costs of living are such that if there is only one person working, that person should be a Superman.

I often wonder…why is that most of the middle class/ higher middle class Indian men are like robots and lifeless machines. These were source of inspiration for their energy levels, passion to life and excellence in different fields. They were awesome till they got married. And all these people are the ones who chose ” Non Working Women” as their spouses.

No offense or not intending to degrade non working women. Gone are the days where the homemakers used to do everything manually without any help of electronic gadgets, gone are the days where the wife does everything…there are servant maids to do domestic chores.

Oh..coming back to these middle class men…their parents slogged in the tough years of India where the opportunities were low, life was tough…even in such years they brought up these gentlemen to be multi talented, excel in multiple fields and dream big. And these idiots what do they do, they get a job, get married and become a machine and dead as vegetable.

Ask me why they became so….they take up the entire financial load of the family as they think they are macho men. They slog day and night with office work. They forget they are human, they forget they were the prince of their parents, they forget they are the mentors of their Sisters….all they remember is they are caretakers of their wife and servants for their kids.

And yeah…by the way they opt for a homemaker that she takes care of his kids and takes care of his entire personal life. But in reality what happens….these kids whose mother is a homemaker…are more arrogant, more indisciplined…they don’t respect time and money. So they end up watching cartoons half of the time , other time watching the daily soaps which mother watches, other time roaming around the world along with mother to complete the lunch or dinner and rest of the time wasting the money of the Dad playing games on mobile . Just because they have the time to do so…May be the ladies too do so because they are also frustrated of life.

And ask me why the kids watch cartoons or spend time on mobiles ….yeah…because mothers don’t have patience for story reading or any games….these TV and gadgets are easy way to keep the kids busy.

Oh and this pseudo concepts of “Lady of the house slogging day and night” is irrelevant these days. 90% of these ladies are educated, they know that their man is working like a donkey, but still they don’t make an effort to share the load, in reverse they build business case or reasons on “Why And how the kids of working women have pathetic upbringing, how working moms are bad mothers and bad wives”. And some, even they want to work they don’t work because they are used to happy and leisure time at home.

And these middle-class men who were apple of everyone’s eyes in their childhood slog slog slog and retire only to realize in their old age that they didn’t live life but dragged their life a money minting machine.

Yes, being a life partner, being a parent means SACRIFICE, but that doesn’t mean you kill yourself. My Dear middle-class married Indian men! Stop being a macho, let your wife also share the financial load. And you too don’t forget that you are human, you are your parents prince, a prince deserves a royal time. Don’t die in the ocean of responsibilities. Let your children be responsible, don’t make them arrogant idiots by buying everything they want.
And don’t think always about them, next time you want to buy your favorite woodlands shoe or Rolex watch…just buy for yourself.

And you being the Hero of your family, help your Heroine to kick start or continue her career. And don’t get lost in the concept of “Working Women being the bad mothers and bad wives”. Don’t let the talented, educated ladies sit at home and spend time on futile things.Don’t breed frustrated lady out of a well educated woman. Would you like to see your daughter just sit at home all the times, be busy forwarding whatsapp jokes and watch TV when she is grown up? No…right…then why do you let your wife do that ???

Prasanna Rayaprolu

Nil Battey Sannata : The Mathematics Of Dreams

Every time, I watch this movie “The Pursuit of Happyness”, I never remember watching this scene without eyes filled with tears,  when Chris clears the interview and while walking on the road says “This moment of my life is called Happyness” …so far this is the movie close to my heart….


Today I got to watch a beautiful movie called ” Nil Battey Sannata”…which roughly translates to zero divided by something leads to hopeless silence…there are so many moments from this movie where you have joyful and emotional tears along with the characters of the movie.

This is a beautiful story of Mother Chanda, her Daughter Apekshs and their mathematics with dreams of life.
Chanda is a Bai(Servant maid) at a Doctor’s house , she dreams her daughter to do well in life by studying and she struggles a lot  to ensure her daughter study well. Whereas, Apeksha is a happy go lucky, arrogant, not so hardworking student, who just thinks ” A servant daughter becomes only Servant”.She just hates Mathematics.

How the Doctor helps  Chanda in motivating her daughter to study mathematics, how she makes her understand the value of dreams and how her daughter achieves the dream is all the story about.

And this entire story is blended with awesome humour and with wonderful characters. The unconditional love of a mother is beautifully depicted.


Chandra’s message to her daughter in the backdrop of Tajmahal is one of the finest scenes…she says …
“Dreams can be unreal or far-fetched, people will laugh and take you down; you’ll have a long, hurdled way towards fulfilling your dreams, but that shouldn’t stop you from pursuing them. Because no matter what, no one can snatch your dreams from you! They are for you to own, and you ALONE.”

This is definitely an award-winning movie and don’t miss watching this movie with your family members.

Loads of Love,
Prasanna Rayaprolu

Sunday Thoughts : Circus Of Life


Here today after a refreshing weekend, I came up with this similie of Circus and Life and want to name it as “Circus of Life”.

There are two dimensions. Every person’s entire life and the people we encounter in life can be compared to Circus, where we play different roles of Circus and where we encounter different people of Circus.

How entertaining our life is , depends on how much variety and how diversified is the circus we are into. The diversified traits, the diversified roles we play in life make the circus makes more entertaining. We may chose to be the Joker; who knows everything but still does everything in funny manner, we may chose to be the courageous and pretty  girl doing variety of stunts , we may chose to be the stuntman who risks everything and is just focussed on his show. We need to play all these with right attitude because rest of the world is watching you and for them every act of yours is just entertainment….even the way you deal your problems is also entertainment..but you shouldn’t get perturbed of audience reactions…you just need to focus on your performance😀

Another dimension is apart from our inner Circus, the external circus of life too becomes more entertaining when we associate in more shows and with more people. We encounter jokers, we encounter pretty people, we encounter tough guys and in the end it’s all entertainment of life. There are so many hardships, everything is risky, but need to be done in funny manner with team spirit because it’s entertainment and World is watching you. In this team dimension of Circus, there should be perfect synchronization with the people you are associated to, if they don’t show humanity or team spirit you just die. If you think others are not helping you, you better have your own individual shows so that at least you don’t get hurt or die without proper reason.

We come alone, we die alone and the important and beautiful time in between is just “Circus of Life” and how diversified you make it and how many people you accommodate in between and make show of Life entertaining is something interesting….


Image Courtesy: Google Search. About this famous painting. This is “The Circus” painting, incomplete as the art died while he was painting and still it is very famous.
The Circus is famously known as Georges Seurat’s final work before his death in March 1891

Have a great week ahead.

Loads of Love ,
Prasanna Rayaprolu

Storm of Life

“Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn’t something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.”

~ Haruki Murakami, Kafka on the Shore.


Mysterious Yet Beautiful Life :)


Was busy and recovering from  fever in past few days and didn’t have much options except for gulping bunch of medicines ,staying at home and sticking to my mom like a Kangaroo and it’s baby… and Have been reading different biographies and  watching various internet videos on different life stories last week..

One side we have superheroes of real life…a lady who is a survivor of acid attack ..another a victim of human trafficking…still they have passion for Life…
On the other side we have screen star who gave up on life after hardships…and some gave up after being strong for long time…

There are some who are dying to be alive..

There are some who are dying every moment and who don’t want to live..

Everyone is correct in their place….

But still…What a paradox….people who want to be alive….die…they and their loved ones do everything to keep them alive..but still they die…

And on other side there are lots of People who want to die, who don’t have any urge to live life even for a second…they live homuchever effort they make to die…

And there is one more important category, they see face of death but still get second chance to live. They know what it is to die and how difficult it is to live in tough times and how difficult it is to make an effort to be alive…they know how precious life is..

Life is mysterious…God’s choices to us are mysterious…

Our stay in this planet is just decided by God and the way we live in this planet is decided only by Our own self. We can create heaven by  living each moment happily or create hell by dieing  every moment by living in sadness…the choice is ours….

Let’s live this moment completely, God takes care of the next moment:)

Next time, you meet a person, pause for a second, genuinely ask them how are they and share a smile, share a warm hug…

Have a blessed week ahead:)


Loads of Love,
Prasanna Rayaprolu

And why should you have regrets in life?

Life is something which we need to live without regrets.
And then dying each moment, wondering, what if I had done this…what if I had spoken honestly my mind to Mom and Dad from my teenage itself…what if I had studied my favorite course on Geology instead of Computer Science…what if I had bought my Harley Davidson bike instead of this big car…  what if I had proposed to this person..what if I had confessed honestly my feelings for this person…
what if I were lil patient…what if I had a check on my temperament…what if I had explored World instead of buying home and paying EMI’s …what if I had started my own company instead of slogging in different corporates…blah blah blah blah….

Yeah, definitely we will not succeed all the times…we might fail…but still..we will face life because they are our choices and we will not be regretting about them😉

Life is meant to be lived without regrets…even if in this moment, God of Death invites us, we should go along with him happily because we are sure we lived each moment without regrets.

And when we are old and dying and when God takes us along with him we shouldn’t experience the trauma of “Regrets”.

Ok..then the immediate question that pops up our mind is…”Damn…won’t people make fun of us if something or everything goes wrong”..”Won’t our loved ones abandon us if we are a failure”…”What happens to my image if this person rejects me or if this business venture fails”..Yes all these might happen, or not happen or some more things also happen…but you know what…you will still be happy instead of being a mechanical sad Robot.
However, we need to strengthen ourselves in dealing the criticism, setbacks. We need have to have faith in the God who sent us to this planet, we need to build faith and support in our parents , friends and our mentors about our ideas. This support system and discipline, patience with ourselves will definitely help us live the life we want to:)

In reference to this I just got reminded of this quote of Mark Sloan  from Grey’s Anatomy :
“I want you to promise me something. If you love someone, you tell them. Even if you are scared that it’s not the right thing. Even if you’re scared that it will cause problems. Even if you are scared it will burn your life to the ground. You say it, and you say it loud. And then you go from there….”


Live the life you want to live before it gets too late:)

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Loads of Love,
Prasanna Rayaprolu



Image Courtesy: Pinterest

She belonged to a powerful race, this woman.
She was soft, strong, tenacious and beautiful all at once.

With fragrance in her blood, the scent of resilience taking her though rough seas and calm, jagged terrains and ambiguous highlands; she was weathered.

Finding strength in solitude, she emerges; tall, bold, spirited. Always an enhanced alteration of herself, reborn with a fire that kindles. What breaks her, makes her. And she wears the beautifully broken fragments with grace.

Yes, she does belong to a powerful race, this woman. A blossoming rose, exemplifying all of womankind.
She perfumes the winds as she walks, and the air lingers with yearning for her to return.

– Anushka Gupta
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