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Some of the inspiring TED Talks I happen to watch in recent times:)

I  am always a fan of being authentic, I like being real , because thats what I am. I do face somany kickbacks for being me and saying what I mean and feel..yeah but you know, I am used to all these and I don’t like changing these traits of mine. This week, I was randomly browsing some TED talks and  found these two talks immensely inspiring and thought of sharing them with you. Do check them:)..they are lovely and straight from the heart of these kickass authentic ladies:)

  • The beauty of being misfit: It’s called the misfit’s myth. And it goes like this: even at the moment of your failure, right then, you are beautiful. You don’t know it yet, but you have the ability to reinvent yourself endlessly. That’s your beauty.
    You can be a drunk, you can be a survivor of abuse, you can be an ex-con, you can be a homeless person, you can lose all your money or your job or your husband or your wife, or the worst thing of all, a child. You can even lose your marbles. You can be standing dead center in the middle of your failure and still, I’m only here to tell you, you are so beautiful. Your story deserves to be heard, because you, you rare and phenomenal misfit, you new species, are the only one in the room who can tell the story the way only you would. And I’d be listening.

         

  • Listening to Shame: There’s two things that I’ve learned in the last year. The first is: vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. Let me ask you honestly — and I’ll give you this warning, I’m trained as a therapist, so I can out-wait you uncomfortably — so if you could just raise your hand that would be awesome — how many of you honestly, when you’re thinking about doing or saying something vulnerablethink, “God, vulnerability is weakness.” How many of you think of vulnerability and weakness synonymously? The majority of people. Now let me ask you this question: This past week at TED, how many of you, when you saw vulnerability up here, thought it was pure courage? Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives. And I’ve come to the belief — this is my 12th year doing this research — that vulnerability is our most accurate measurement of courage — to be vulnerable, to let ourselves be seen, to be honest.

 

Loads of Love,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

 

 

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Experience Matters :)

A giant ship engine failed.  The ship’s owners tried one expert
after another, but none of them could figure out how to fix the
engine.  Then they brought in an old man who had been fixing
ships since he was a young [boy].  He carried a large bag of tools
with him, and when he arrived, he immediately went to work.  He
inspected the engine very carefully, top to bottom.  Two of the
ship’s owners were there, watching this man, hoping he would
know what to do. After looking things over, the old man reached
into his bag and pulled out a small hammer.  He gently tapped
something.  Instantly, the engine lurched into life.  He carefully
put his hammer away.  The engine was fixed!  A week later, the
owners received a bill from the old man for ten thousand
dollars.  “What?!” the owners exclaimed.  “He hardly did
anything!”  So they wrote the old man a note saying, “Please
send us an itemized bill.”

The man sent a bill that read:

Tapping with a hammer………………….. $ 2.00
Knowing where to tap…………………….. $ 9,998.00

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Effort is important, however Knowing where to tap is experience. If you think, hiring experienced resources is expensive, try hiring an amateur, it might “cost” a lot hiring the one who doesn’t know where to tap😉

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My Europe Diaries – Visit to Nativity of Christ Cathedral, Riga

Hi All,

This year in May, I visited Europe for the first time and the first country I visited was Latvia. I am truly blessed for visiting this beautiful city “Riga”.

In the series of posts in name of My Europe Diaries, I am going to share some posts and my experiences of Europe.

This post is about the cathedral ” Nativity of Christ Cathedral”. This is the biggest orthodox church of the city. It was officially opened in the year 1884. However in the later years during the soviet era, this church was turned into planetarium, restaurant and finally in the 1990’s the restoration of the church began and finally consecrated by Archbishop Alexander on 6 May 2000.

This cathedral is a true beauty, it is a synonym of majestic architecture. Its a joy watching this cathedral. The interiors of this cathedral are beautiful. And it was a serene experience visiting this cathedral. I did try to capture the pics of the cathedral from outside, however the magic of the place can be felt only when we visit. Don’t forget visiting this place when you visit Riga:)

Here are some of the pictures captured by me.

Loads of Love,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

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Beginning of Happiness….

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What
Do sad people have in
Common?
It seems
They have all built a shrine
To the past
And often go there
And do a strange wail and
Worship.
What is the beginning of
Happiness?
It is to stop being
So religious
Like That.

~ The Gift – Versions of Hafiz by Daniel Ladinsky

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Share the load : Story Of A Indian Middle Class Man

#Sharetheload #IndianMiddleClassMan #HeroToZero #SupermanToDoberman

India is in a metamorphosis. Education levels of female are increasing, however the amount of women who work and share the financial load is very less. But the standards, the costs of living are such that if there is only one person working, that person should be a Superman.

I often wonder…why is that most of the middle class/ higher middle class Indian men are like robots and lifeless machines. These were source of inspiration for their energy levels, passion to life and excellence in different fields. They were awesome till they got married. And all these people are the ones who chose ” Non Working Women” as their spouses.

No offense or not intending to degrade non working women. Gone are the days where the homemakers used to do everything manually without any help of electronic gadgets, gone are the days where the wife does everything…there are servant maids to do domestic chores.

Oh..coming back to these middle class men…their parents slogged in the tough years of India where the opportunities were low, life was tough…even in such years they brought up these gentlemen to be multi talented, excel in multiple fields and dream big. And these idiots what do they do, they get a job, get married and become a machine and dead as vegetable.

Ask me why they became so….they take up the entire financial load of the family as they think they are macho men. They slog day and night with office work. They forget they are human, they forget they were the prince of their parents, they forget they are the mentors of their Sisters….all they remember is they are caretakers of their wife and servants for their kids.

And yeah…by the way they opt for a homemaker wife..so that she takes care of his kids and takes care of his entire personal life. But in reality what happens….these kids whose mother is a homemaker…are more arrogant, more indisciplined…they don’t respect time and money. So they end up watching cartoons half of the time , other time watching the daily soaps which mother watches, other time roaming around the world along with mother to complete the lunch or dinner and rest of the time wasting the money of the Dad playing games on mobile . Just because they have the time to do so…May be the ladies too do so because they are also frustrated of life.

And ask me why the kids watch cartoons or spend time on mobiles ….yeah…because mothers don’t have patience for story reading or any games….these TV and gadgets are easy way to keep the kids busy.

Oh and this pseudo concepts of “Lady of the house slogging day and night” is irrelevant these days. 90% of these ladies are educated, they know that their man is working like a donkey, but still they don’t make an effort to share the load, in reverse they build business case or reasons on “Why And how the kids of working women have pathetic upbringing, how working moms are bad mothers and bad wives”. And some, even they want to work they don’t work because they are used to happy and leisure time at home.

And these middle-class men who were apple of everyone’s eyes in their childhood slog slog slog and retire only to realize in their old age that they didn’t live life but dragged their life a money minting machine.

Yes, being a life partner, being a parent means SACRIFICE, but that doesn’t mean you kill yourself. My Dear middle-class married Indian men! Stop being a macho, let your wife also share the financial load. And you too don’t forget that you are human, you are your parents prince, a prince deserves a royal time. Don’t die in the ocean of responsibilities. Let your children be responsible, don’t make them arrogant idiots by buying everything they want.
And don’t think always about them, next time you want to buy your favorite woodlands shoe or Rolex watch…just buy for yourself.

And you being the Hero of your family, help your Heroine to kick start or continue her career. And don’t get lost in the concept of “Working Women being the bad mothers and bad wives”. Don’t let the talented, educated ladies sit at home and spend time on futile things.Don’t breed frustrated lady out of a well educated woman. Would you like to see your daughter just sit at home all the times, be busy forwarding whatsapp jokes and watch TV when she is grown up? No…right…then why do you let your wife do that ???

Cheers,
Prasanna Rayaprolu