Do you know what it takes to like your ownself. An ENTIRE LIFE TIME.
It is a continuous journey. It is a journey of complex emotions of self doubt, fears, constant calibration among confidence, low confidence, over confidence, lots of failures, lots of successes, lots of happiness, lots of heart breaks and lots of challenges.
And in this journey…. liking our ownself when the people around and society is constantly judgemental the shit gets complicated. I don’t say life is pathetic and people around are cruel. However, the act of accepting our current version , making efforts to improve ourself by rejecting the external negativity is not a one time effort. It is a continuous exercise.
At School…good grades, then right course in University, then right job with huge pay, then right life partner, then kids, then lots of property..then die. ..if the sequence is not proper or if any step is not proper society gets judgemental…
However, in this trial and error journey of life , we reach a limit where we no more get perturbed by external judgements …in the sense we don’t get perturbed yo that extent that we drool in self doubt or get into depression. After we reach that limit point, what happens is we realise that the best judge of our life is ourself. Who else knows better about our strengths and weaknesses. So, is it end of problems? No…after reaching this point..we gain the ability to filter, ignore unnecessary emotions, unnecessary negativity, unnecessary advices from people. We become wise to accept advices and feedback only from selective sources. Because at this phase we know how to take care ourself, how to respect our self and show some love to our ownself.
And from this beautiful point….my friend…we become the Lion/Lioness…rather the Emperor/Empress of our life. We conduct our life with immense grace….
And in this phase…
we don’t get intimidated even when person of Jeff Bezos level comes and makes fun our wealth…
we don’t get intimidated even when person of Elon Musk level comes and makes fun our innovation levels…
we don’t get intimidated even if the Cleopatra ghost comes and makes fun our beauty…
Even if we get impacted…we bounce back quickly and we will know how to conduct ourself.
Driving the point home.
As said in Bhagavad Gita:
उद्धरेदात्मनात्मानं नात्मानमवसादयेत् |
आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मनः || ५ ||
uddhared ātmanātmānaṃ nātmānam avasādayet
ātmaiva hy ātmano bandhur ātmaiva ripur ātmanaḥ 6.5
Bhagavan says that you strive on this path and uplift yourself by yourself.
Invest good quality time on your well being. Be the best friend of your ownself. Take care , nurture your thoughts, feelings, emotions very well, protect yourself from external negatively by making yourself very strong. Don’t wait for someone else to rescue you, protect you , take charge of your life 🙂
Have an awesome weekend.
Loads of Love,
Prasanna Rayaprolu Chirravuri