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Some interesting views about the world of career woman

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It’s often strange that we Indians speak about empowerment of women, gender equality. However, career women  need to face several stereotypes at work and at home. In spite of their hard work and efforts they do face several problems. However,almost all of the women are strong-willed, determined and matured. They face all of these tough situations with courage and move ahead.

Sometime back got to read an interesting article “The 10 Worst Stereotypes About Powerful Women” . Some excerpts from the article:

Women continue climbing the rungs of power—building their ranks as heads of state, corporate leaders and media influencers—but their minority status means they still face harsh, limiting assessments based on their gender. “Women are being judged more, even by other women,” said Valerie Young, Ed.D., author of The Secret Thoughts of Successful Women. While male leaders are allowed to have complex personalities, powerful women are often summed up by hackneyed stereotypes that undermine them and their power.

The following represent the 10 most hated and pervasive stereotypes.

1)Ice Queen

2)Single and Lonely

3)Tough

4)Weak

5)Masculine

6)Conniving

7)Emotional

8)Angry

9)A Token

10) A CheerLeader

Read the complete article here: The 10 Worst Stereotypes About Powerful Women  

On the other side, career women need to face much more stereotypes at home and with respect to marriage. Career woman are stereotyped as bad mothers, bad life partners and bad cooks.

Its a personal choice to work or not to work. There might be several factors which drive a person to make choice regarding work. There is nothing great about working women and nothing mean about non working women. Its about prioritizing the things in life, as per the person’s situations and needs in life a person makes a choice to work and not to work.

 However, some lazy woman make best use of this stereotypes regarding women and just don’t ever bother to work or try to be independent. They just get used to this “parasite” mentality. They suck the wealth and riches of parents before marriage and later they live as parasites on the money of their life partners.  Some woman sugar coat this parasite mentality with so called ” family responsibilities such as cooking, responsibilities of children”. These women in turn promote the stereotypes about career women.

However, the fact is almost all the career woman are good homemakers too. Real career women do not complain about the responsibilities related to children and home as much as the work less women do.

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Today I read this article “Home truths on career wives” in TOI by Chetan Bhagat. He presented interesting views about career women.

Some excerpts from the article:

Many Indian men, even the educated ones, have two distinct profiles of women — the girlfriend material and the wife material. One you party with, the other you take home. The prejudice against non-traditional women who assert themselves is strong.

Let us look at another part of the world. Yahoo, a leading tech firm and a Fortune 500 company, recently hired a new woman CEO, Marissa Mayer. What’s more, she was six months pregnant when she was hired, a fact she did not hide in her interviews.

Marissa will take some time off after childbirth and will be back at work later. She can manage both. There is something to celebrate about that. Marissa is a role model for women and even men.

I’d like Indian men to have an open mind about choosing their life partners and revise their ‘ideal woman’ criteria. Having a traditional wife who cooks, cleans and is submissive might be nice. However, choosing a capable, independent and career-oriented woman can also bring enormous benefits. For instance, one, a man who marries a career woman gets a partner to discuss his own career with. A working woman may be able to relate better to organizational issues than a housewife. A spouse who understands office politics and can give you good advice can be an asset. Two, a working woman diversifies the family income streams. In the era of expensive apartments and frequent lay-offs, a working spouse can help you afford a decent house and feel more secure about finances. Three, a working woman is better exposed to the world. She brings back knowledge and information that can be useful to the family. Whether it’s the latest deals or the best mutual fund to invest in, or even new holiday destinations, a working woman can add to the quality of life. Four, the children of a working woman learn to be more independent and will do better than mollycoddled children. Five, working women often find some fulfillment in their jobs, apart from home. Hence, they may have better life satisfaction, and feel less dependent on the man. This in turn can lead to more harmony. Of course, all these benefits accrue if men are able to keep their massive, fragile egos aside and see women as equals.

Sure, there are drawbacks also in being with working women. But the modern age that we are in, the phulka-making bride may come at a cost of missing out on other qualities. Please bear that in mind before you judge women based on their clothes, interest in the kitchen or the confidence in their voice.

My mother worked for 40 years. My wife is the COO at an international bank. It makes me proud. She doesn’t make phulkas for me. We outsource that work to our help, and it doesn’t really bother me. If my wife had spent her life in the kitchen, it would have bothered me more.

Please choose your partner carefully. Don’t just tolerate, but accept and even celebrate our successful women. They take our homes ahead and our country forward. We may have less hot phulkas, but we will have a better nation.

Read Complete Article : Home truths on career wives

Hope you enjoyed reading this post. Do share your views with me.

Cheers,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

Posted in My Favourite Music

My favorite Songs of Super Star Rajesh Khanna

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Here are some of my favorite songs of super star Rajesh Khanna. For some strange reason Rajesh Khanna’s songs help me in my life. Almost all of his songs have deeper meaning and good philosophical message .  I am obsessed with the songs on Life and Happiness. May be thats the reason there are somany songs related to those themes in this list of mine. Here is my collection of my favorite songs of Kaka.

1)Zindagi ke safar mein gujar jaate hai jo makam’ from the film AAP KI KASAM:

2)Zindagi Ek Safar Hai from Andaz movie:

3)Zindagi Kaisi Hai Paheli from Anand Movie:

4)Zindagi Ka Safar Hai Ye Kaisa Safar from Safar movie:

5)Woh Shaam Kuch Ajeeb Thi from Khamoshi movie:

6)Mere Sapnon Ki Rani from Aradhana movie:

7)Jai Jai Shiv Shankar from Aap Ki Kasam movie:

8)O Mere Dil Ke Chain from Mere Jeevan Saathi movie:

9)Roop tera mastana from Aaradhana:

10)Kora Kagaz Tha Ye Man Mera from the movie Aradhana:

11)Yeh Jo Mohabbat Hai from Kati Patang movie:

12)Duniya mein logon ko from Apna Desh movie :

13) Kahin Door Jab Din Dhal Jaaye from Aanand movie:

14)Kuch Toh Log Kahenge – Amar Prem

15)Yeh Kya Hua, Kaise Hua, Kab Hua from Amar Prem movie:

16)Accha To Hum Chalte Hain of from Aan Milo Sajna movie:

17)Aate Jaate Khubsurat Awara Sadkon Pe from Anurodh movie:

18)Maine Tere Liye Hi Saat Rang Ke from Anand movie:

19)Tum Bin Jeewan Kaisa Jeewan from Bawarchi movie:

20)Hansne ki chah ne kitna mujhe rulaya hain from Aavishkar movie:

Hope you enjoyed listening to these songs. Please do share with me your favorite songs of Kaka.

Best Regards,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

Posted in Books, Inspirational Stuff, Life's Like That, My Favourite Music

Some thoughts about “Go Kiss the World” Book : The Future of Desire and The Future of Fate

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A person who wishes to be an Engineer in the childhood, did not get chance to study Engineering instead studied Physics – became a Teacher; next that person became a writer and then studied Management became a Manager and then became an Entrepreneur. Is there any connection between Physics- English- Management?

A person’s destiny is a mystery. Understanding events in our life and the connection among the events is much more interesting. Sometimes we understand and sometimes we do not understand the connection. This subject is beyond our scope of understanding.

Am sure there might be times in our life when we wonder “What the hell is happening with my life? Where did I start my journey and where am I heading to? How is this present experience in life going to help me in my future? “

Sometimes we even wonder, if everything happens as per our destiny then what is our role in our own life. What is the point in having goals, dreams; if our destiny is planned by God then what is the point in we trying to plan our life and struggling to achieve those plans?

Most of the times, we wonder what is in store for us in this life? What is life going to give us?

Driving the point home, our life is a cocktail of two worlds…world of our desire and the world of our fate. We need to play our role efficiently and leave the rest to fate or destiny or whatever. What really matters is what is our genuine contribution to our Life? We must not waste our time by pondering over the thought….what has life given me or what is life going to me ?

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Here are some interesting thoughts of Mr. Bagchi on Life as discussed by him in the chapter “The Future of Desire and The Future of Fate” of the book “Go Kiss the World”.

Someone once said, most men take more out of life than they give to it. A few give more to life than they take out of it. The world runs because of such men.

 J.D Bernal wrote in his book “There are two futures, the future of desire and the future of fate, and man’s reason has never learnt to separate them.”

What similarities exist between the days that I spent at the secretariat and those that I live in MindTree today? How does the work there resemble my work here? Or for that matter, does the world in which I live and work at this stage of my career even remotely resemble the sights, sounds and smells of Kishen Gunj, off Bara Hindu Rao, Delhi,1977?

Our lives are like rivers – the source seldom reveals the confluence. Does a river fret over the long journey and about its end just as it is about to spurt? It simply does not do that, caring instead to flow, to  begin its journey, and on its way builds a beneficial relationship with anyone who comes in contact with her.

Do check this wonderful song from the Tamil Film Rhythm . Here the writer compares the flow of a River to Life of a Woman

S: Do check my posts related to the same book:

Some thoughts about “Go Kiss the World” Book : Power of Mentoring 🙂

Some thoughts about “Go Kiss the World” Book : Hang On!!! Power of Pain and Persistence!!!

Some thoughts about “Go Kiss the World” Book : How Transfers Help you :)

and

Go Kiss the World

Cheers,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

Posted in My favorite Personalites, My Favourite Music

Beautiful Susan Boyle :)

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It’s never too late to be who you might have been.

~George Eliot

In my childhood I used to wonder about this quote of Eliot. I used to think its just nonsense. However, as I grew, I understood how life gives you interesting tests and how we need to protect our dreams and why we should never give up, why we should believe in our dreams until we turn our dreams into reality. Above all…its never too late 🙂

Other day, came across wonderful video about Susan Boyle. I was immensely inspired by her story and her energy levels. I think, it would be nice if you can see the video by yourself 🙂 . Check this major event in Susan Boyle’s life  and stay inspired 🙂

Do Check  Susan Boyle’s Story here :http://www.susanboylemusic.com/us/story/

Susan Boyle performs Duet with Elaine Paige

Here are the lyrics:

Nothing is so good it lasts eternally
Perfect situations must go wrong.
But this has never yet prevented me
From wanting far too much for far too long.
Looking back, I could have played it differently
Won a few more moments, who can tell.
But it took time to understand the man
Now at least I know, I know him well.

Wasn’t it good (Oh so good)
Wasn’t he fine (Oh so fine)
Isn’t it madness he can’t be mine.
But in the end, he needs a little bit more than me
More security (He needs his fantasy and freedom)
I know him so well.

No one in your life is with you constantly
No one is completely on your side.
And though I move my world to be with him
Still the gap between us is too wide.
Looking back, I could have played it differently
Learned about the man before I fell.
But I was ever so much younger then
Now at least I know, I know him well.

Wasn’t it good (Oh so good)
Wasn’t he fine (Oh so fine)
Isn’t it madness he won’t be mine
Didn’t I know how it would go,
If I knew from the start.
Why am I falling apart.

Wasn’t it good
Wasn’t he fine
Isn’t it madness he won’t be mine
But in the end, he needs a little more than me
More security (He needs his fantasy and freedom)
I know him so well
It took time to understand him
I know him so well

Cheers,

Prasanna Rayaprolu

 

Posted in My Favorite Poems

“I shall not care” Poem by Sara Teasdale

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After so many days, I felt like reading poems. So immediately checked for poems books from our personal library. There is a special book in our library with the title ” A little book of Cherished Poems”. My Big Bro bought this book in 2001. I checked some poems from it.

Today, this poem “I Shall Not Care” caught my attention. Its a simple poem with lot of feelings. I loved it and thought of posting it here.

Here is the poem 🙂

I shall not care 

When I am dead and over me bright April

Shakes out her rain-drenched hair,

Though you should lean above me broken-hearted,

I shall not care.

 

I shall have peace, as leafy trees are peaceful

When rain bends down the bough,

And I shall be more silent and cold-hearted

Than you are now.