Often, people think that being eldest child has a privilege. Nope!!! Being the youngest child of the family is a privilege. And having siblings who are much much elder than you is much more special privilege; apart from loads of pampering, love and affection by your siblings, the ultimate advantage you receive is “Mentoring”.
If we can observe, a person who happens to be a youngest child in the family with elder siblings of huge age gap, tends to be more mature than people of their age(Ofcourse there are exceptions like me :P). This maturity in thought process is just because of elder siblings.
Elder siblings knowingly or unknowingly mentor their younger sibling. In this process of helping their younger siblings they become mentors to these younger ones. These younger kids of the family initially start with “Copy mode” of their elder siblings because they just fall in love with the abilities, style, mannerisms, methods of their siblings. Basically the youngest one feels his/her elder siblings are Heroes of their life. Later on, when these younger ones get an opportunity to mentor they tend to become good mentors.
I am posting these thoughts out of my experience. My brothers are my best friends, my angels and of course my MENTORS. They being 9 and 7 elders to me have an immense influence on me right from childhood. For me they are the super heroes and source of inspiration. I am immensely influenced by my brother’s way of writing, studying, cooking, hobbies and approach towards life. As I have two brothers as my mentors, I have the choice of picking best practices from my brothers and then customize them according to my needs and necessities. Whatever am I today is because of my brothers. They encourage me to be independent, develop interest in different things in life, live life to the fullest extent and last but not least they always feed the “Optimism” potion to me whenever I feel stressed.
I did start enjoying the beauty of mentoring right from the time I started teaching Physics to students in our colony. I started feeling happy when my student friends understood the beauty of the subject because of my help. These interesting teaching experiences helped me to become Physics Lecturer at College. Even at college, I understood the beauty of experiments of Physics, dealing various mindset people while teaching to my students. This mentoring helps me now in my job. Above all, when we mentor someone we receive some mental satisfaction and we feel happy.
Driving the point home, getting a right mentor is a boon at the same time getting an opportunity to mentor is much more bigger boon.So, don’t ever miss such opportunities 🙂
Last but not least, never underestimate the power of inhouse mentors who are in the form of parents, siblings and cousins. Thats the power of mentoring !!!!
Here are some interesting thoughts of Mr. Bagchi on Mentoring and about his primary mentors his brothers:
“As my mentor, Dadamoni had a Pygmalion effect in shaping my personality and my destiny.
Learning gives us knowledge but it is good mentoring that gives us the ability to relate it to the real world; it helps us learn life skills and moulds our attitude.
The self- confidence that mentoring can generate is huge.
The principles of mentoring a child and a budding professional are not different.
It all begins with the magical sensation of someone reaching out and whispering into your ears, ‘Yes, you can!’ This is when dreams are created, and bridges built, to reach beyond the realm of the possible.
I learnt the importance of ambition and achievement from Dadamoni; from Amitav, I learnt that our achievements are only as good as the value they create for others……. in the larger context of life and living, the line between what is mine and what isn’t is just another porous continuum. In it, the gaps, the empty spaces that make the line porous, are the reality. These intermittently laid lines are just our perception, they are drawn by a mind that is not fully awake to the deeply interconnceted nature of things.
All professional growth must finally take us to that point of realization because quantum achievement follows a state of awareness in which the concept of mine and thine ceases to exist”.
Check this lovely video of Anoushka Shankar and her father and her mentor Pandit Ravishankar ji :
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