…..Ko Gussa Kyon Aata Hai???

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Some things are hard to be implemented. Giving  long lectures on anger management and promising oneself not to get angry on silly things are some of the most crazy things. These things are best heard and toughest to be implemented. Anger is a strange emotion. Some times its scary too. We lose reasoning when we are angry.

I have this favorite hobby of observing people when they are Angry .

My Dad yells on the top of his voice when he is angry. If you have energy you can increase his anger by answering him back.  Some how his anger remembers me the Howler in Harry Potter world.

My Mom’s face becomes red as yam when she is angry. So seeing colorful anger of my Mom; my brothers and me take proper measures to prevent the drastic effects of Mom’s Angry toofan.

My Big B’s anger is funny. He yells ONLY in ENGLISH. His English is soo good in those times that he can get cent percent scores in GRE or TOEFL or ILTES in those times. I like my Big B’s anger when he scolds me, they are customized to me in a creative, crazy manner. See! Customization is the concept of the hour in any field. So who don’t like customization.

My Second Bro’s anger is humorous 😉 and very very scary. Reason!!! He goes into silent mode. He does not speak at all. Silence is most dangerous of all the things in the world. This cute brother of mine is like mother Earth in patience, so he does not get angry 99 percent of the times …however if he gets angry….there will be a valid reason.

Hmm. Some down market people behave in a strange manner when they are angry. According to my observation, some people break the things in the times of their anger, some use foul words. I still fail to understand what makes those people use foul words which refer to human body organs and the character of the opponent’s father or mother or sister or brother. I still don’t understand why do they bring in to the scene those family members too. I really wonder if they really mean those words.

Btw, how could I not mention the online patterns and behaviors of people when they are angry. Some friends of mine go into invisible mode when they are angry, they do not respond but they like people writing to them ;). Some friends display their anger by writing some crazy, customized status messages and display pictures. Hmm.  To understand some status messages we need cryptography experts to decode the real meaning  for us. Some, close and open their scrapbooks, walls depending on their anger rise or fall. So if we have no other productive work in those times we can check their closed and open walls , books with a free ticket.

 

Aristotle Thatha commented on Anger in a fine manner by saying :  Anyone can become angry. That is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose and in the right way… that is not easy.

 

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If we try to observe well, most of the times we get angry on the people whom we care. We feel disturbed when they don’t behave according to our expectations. Anger, is  the emotion that arises from care. This is explained very well in Gita:

When an object has charmed one to a point of deep attachment, and when fear of its loss has started coming up in waves to disturb the individual, then, such an individual’s attitude towards those that come between him and the object of his attachment is called ‘anger.’

Anger is thus nothing but a feeling that rises in us towards an obstacle between ourselves and the object of our attachment; the anger thus arising within is directly proportional to the amount of fear one entertains on the score of the obstacle holding one back from winning one’s object of love.

Anger, therefore, is only our attachment for an object, expressed at an obstacle that has come between us and the object of our desire.

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Wondering how will I behave when I am angry 😉 …..Bloody Hell. Did’nt I say that I don’t get angry 😀

Cheers,

Prasanna Rayaprolu