Discussions related to Leadership are always interesting . Other day had a discussion with a friend of mine about the IPL matches, the way KKR lost , the levels of frustration of SRK about his team, the way he tweeted about them. Alas! He should have behaved in a matured manner. Subsequently this discussion lead to the aspect of “Handling Failure”. We discussed several incidents read in books, news papers and other real life incidents. That discussion made me think and research about that issue further.
My Observations on this aspect are compiled in this post. I personally feel, Handling Failure with Grace , Courage , Taking the ownership for the task , Not losing faith in team members, Motivating the team members for upcoming tasks are the quite essential qualities of a Leader. If he/she does not possess these basic and essential qualities a person is not eligible to be a Leader.
Handling Failure With Grace: World watches the Leaders. It is essential for the Leaders to accept the failure with grace. They should not sulk, become angry, cry like immature kids. They need to accept the failure with grace and dignity. As Oprah said “Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping-stone to greatness.”
Taking The Ownership: Obviously Leaders lead the teams and they alone do not do the entire task. They have a team, team members . Those team members work as per the instructions of the Leader. However, things get interesting when a project or task or event is a failure. Real Leaders take the ownership for the failure. They do not behave with “I don’t know how the hell this has happened” attitude. Do check this lecture of Dr Kalam on Leadership and its quite interesting to know about the wonderful Leadership of Mr Satish Dhawan
Not Losing Faith In Team members: A Leader should not or does not behave like a Khadoos Mother In Law who bugs her daughter in law for the failures and every damn thing on Earth. A Leader does not disown the team members or orphan them in the times of failure. Interestingly some so-called leaders do not leave any chance to bug the team members along with the external world. Real Leaders tell to the world about the good skills and capabilities of his/her team members . They do not make fun or mockery of the team members.
Motivating The Team Members For Upcoming Tasks: A Leader is the first and quickest person who is capable of coming out of the shock of failure. He or She is bothered to allocate minimal time for the mourning period of failure. Apart from coming out of the shock of failure, the leader motivates the team members. Leader inspires the team to accept the further challenges, further projects with confidence, enthusiasm and hope. Basically a Leader is a HOPE AMBASSADOR for the team. He fuels the hope in team whenever it is necessary and during the times of failure leader works 24 X 7 in filling the Hope among his/ her team members.
I feel a Leader should posses these above mentioned qualities . A real test for a Leader is his/her reaction in the times of failure. A Leader looks at a failure as an opportunity for improvement. After all each one of us is a Leader for our project called LIFE. We need to Lead our life in a responsible manner. Moreover, We need to behave in much more responsible manner when we fail. Taking clue from the above qualities of leader and if we try to apply those to our project called Life and assuming our OWNSELF as the Project Leader of the LIFE Project and our attitude, strengths, fears, shortfalls, skills as TEAM MEMBERS we can conclude:
One should Handle Failures in their Life with GRACE.
One should take the ownership for the wrong things or right things done by them in their Life. They need to be bold enough to take the ownership of their life and their deeds, actions and their consequences instead of complaining on third person or external factor.
One should accept oneself in all the times. One should not deny their own self. The beauty of Life is achieving the things while accepting , being aware of our current state.
One should motivate oneself all the times, particularly in the times of failure. One should not demotivate oneself by feeding all the negative thoughts. As said by Robin Sharma, our mind is like a garden, we are need to behave like a responsible gardener who is very careful about all the plants and trees in his garden and who does not encourage any weeds in the garden. Weeds are the poisonous and negative thoughts which we unknowingly entertain and grow. These weeds consume the energy and make the mind bitter place. So it is necessary to have proper control on our mind and nourish good thoughts. This aspect gains much more importance in the times of failure particularly when the world does not bother to have confidence in you.
Brainless stories and Films are really good energizers. They have immense power to make your day humorous. The senseless twists and meaningless turns in serials and films make your world better. Reason!!! When you come back to real world you feel very happy that your real world is simple and logical than those serials or films 😉 . Thought of writing some of the silly things from some Indian serials and some Films
Why is that in Serials and Films people from extremely different backgrounds get attracted and they happen to fall in Love. We have several interesting combinations like very very poor Heroine and very very rich Hero; very very rich Heroine and very very poor Hero. Can’t normal deals and stories be made? May be love is blind. May be those hero and heroine are not bothered about this materialistic world , wonder if they are poor in Maths and Economics 😉
Why is that in Serials and Films we still have completely illiterate Hero or Heroines. Added to that the illiteracy of that Heroine or Heroine is depicted in “Cute” manner? Oh My God! Is Illiteracy cute even in this 21st century 😦 Wonder why did’nt those Hero or Heroine make an effort to have basic education instead of concentrating on make up, variety of cloths and all. I still cannot figure out how “illiteracy” is found to be cho cute and chweet!!! . In real world people are dying to improve their lives by studying more and more…with quotas and without quotas…whereas in this serails 😦 . Wonder how an illiterate hero or heroine is found to be interesting for any one 😦
Why is that in Serials and Films , whenever a Hero gets hurt on his head or hand , Heroine immediately tears her saree or dupatta so easily and ties that cloth to the Hero. Mind you!!! That saree or dupatta will not be some simple cotton material it will be some strong silk or polyster material. Wonder if that Heroine has long nails or may be she has expertise in tearing strong clothes easily 😦 . This trick of Heroine is still followed in serials, saw this bit couple of weeks back in Bandini Serial in which Santu tears her saree to the wounded head of Dharamraj Mayyavanshi.
Why is that in Serials and Films, if a Hero or Heroine disguises himself or herself , all of us can easily identify our Hero or Heroine and unfortunately not even a single person in the screen, I mean in the serial or Film does not identify. May be all those people are of poor IQ levels 😉 The crazy part is the disguising is just done with minimal things like a ghoonghat for girls and beard , spectacles for guys. They should not try such cheap tricks on audience. They need to take lessons from Kamal Hassan or Amitabh on this make up issues.
Why is that in Serials and Films, the Heroine takes up the job of Sherlock Holmes or James Bond and does all the investigation. Why does’nt she inform the people in the house about the problems and why does’nt she take the help of Government , legal system instead doing all the silly investigation and wasting our time. Tulsi, Parvathi, Jassi, Bani , Santu…uff this category of heroines is endless…in all these serials the heroes who intially were depicted as intelligent, tech savy and wise turned into duffers without minimal common sense…such feminist serials…hahhha.
Why is that in Serials and Films, the main characters go into coma and come back in wrong time. In some cases they come with extremely different faces. How is that this extreme medical technologies are not available in real world. The interesting part is during all these surgery people even grow or get short in their height. Such a wonderful medical science and medical technologies. Wish we get all those in real world 😉
Why is that is Serials and Films, we get to hear variety of chants and music in the background. Who is going to sing all those. Why is that they show the expressions of each persons multiple times with that khadoos , weird music. Do all these people have some problem. Why is that their reaction time is sooo slow 😦
Whatever…as long as people watch we get to see all these stuff. Do share in this post your observations on Indian serials and Indian films.
‘We’ humans are really strange. We , are very persistent , in-spite of several failures, several set backs in life we still lead life with the elusive factor called “Hope”. This Hope is basic commodity for any person to lead the next second in life without Hope a person is as equivalent as a dead corpse.
The beauty of this Hope is that it is so magical even though it is intangible it gives immense strength to lead life with lots of life in it. There might be no logical or scientific reasoning attached to a person’s Hope almost all the times. Its some serene ‘thing’ which everyone need to have 🙂
There are some gloomy days now and then for every person, in those days any thing in the world cannot motivate unless and until we have tiny Hope sprouting in our confused minds. Do we have any choice except for enjoying another season of hope???
Emily Dickinson has wonderfully compared the Hope of a person to the bird. Thought it would be apt to quote in this context.
Hope is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul,
And sings the tune without the words,
And never stops at all,
And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.
I’ve heard it in the chilliest land
And on the strangest sea;
Yet, never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.
(Poem: Hope is the thing with feathers by Emily Dickinson)
OMG!!! This is the One-O-One post of my blog. Its interesting and happy to know that I published 100 posts in this blog of mine. Blogging has been interesting and so too this blog. This blog became an integral part of my life. Hope I continue to write in this blog for another 50 years(Uff! Another 50 years is too much…hehhe).
I wish to dedicate this One-O-One post to the most important people of my life i.,e my Brothers. They are my life line, my best friends, my angels and of course my lovely elder brothers. They being 9 and 7 elders to me have an immense influence on me right from childhood. For me they are the super heroes and source of inspiration. Often Mom and Dad bug me by saying that I am a crazy sister of crazy brothers 😉 . Sometimes Mom and Dad get frustrated by the levels of confidence and trust I have on my brothers. My friends will know about my brothers as they have no other option left as I keep on referring to my brothers in some or the other context. I did not have any necessity to have a special class of friends called “Best Friends” separately as my two brothers are my best friends till date(touchwood!!!). Somany scared me by saying ‘Brothers will change when they get married’. Interestingly, no change has happend in my relation with brothers except for beautiful addition of some more lovely people like bhabhis , nephews and niece in to my life. Whatever am I today is because of my brothers. They encourage me to be independent, develop interest in different things in life, live life to the fullest extent and last but not least they always feed the “Optimism” potion to me whenever I feel stressed.
It would be wise on my part if I stop boasting about my brothers before you people faint or get hysteric 😉
I had grumbling start to the day as I was vexed with lots of medicines for cold , cough and several other silly ailments. It is really sick to be sick and to be on several food restrictions even though its a temporary phase and state. Added to these several confusions in Life. Had no other option except to motivate myself. And as said by some mahan Japaneese guru “Motivation is like a bath, it should be taken daily”, we need to refill the fuel of motivation in us everyday not for the sake of others , for our own sake 🙂 . I came across this lovely article and I thought I must post it here and most of my friends know that I have this irresistible desire to share the things I know with all my friends 😉
This quote of Helen Keller “I am only one; but still I am one. I cannot do everything, but still I can do something; I will not refuse to do something I can do” is ringing in my ears right from the morning. Several thoughts were flowing in mind and in this context I thought I will share some things which came into my mind.
1) Never Waste Food: You may think that I am being preachy. However, I wish to explain in few lines about this. Please pack the left over food and give it to the needy people. There are several people dying without basic food. When you go to a restaurant, it happens that sometimes we order more than we need , in that case, please don’t feel shy to ask those people to pack the left over food. You can give it to the needy people. This act of yours really really helps them. May be you may not feed them daily, however there is nothing wrong if they get to eat nice food one day 🙂 .
2) Old clothes to new lives : Most of us are blessed and privileged that we get to wear decent apparel. We are capable of buying new clothes every year. So, for every 5 or some new dresses you buy donate at least one of your old clothes to the needy people. This way, you will not get poor , however, it gives you happiness.
3) Respect Nature : We all are part of Mother Nature. Respect the Nature. Spend some time of your day close to nature. Protect the trees. Do not pollute the nature .If it is not possible to walk leisurely in the nature, atleast try to plant small plants in your home, water them, take care of them daily. Believe me, spending some time with plants is really awesome and refreshing.
4) Be Nice to People “Dil se”: “Nice” is a simple world. However the scope of things that come into “Nice” category are huge and simple. Smile, Wish, Thank, Greet, Listen to , Talk to people around you. You may wonder, what am I saying. These small things may sound funny, we do all these part of our life as we are social beings, however, the next time you smile at a person, talk to a person, greet a person or listen to a person…do it with “Dil se” . After all people can feel your positive vibrations.
5) Don’t Bargain : We often hear elders saying bargaining is an art, we need to bargain a lot before we actually buy the product. Its not fair to bargain all the times. Do not bargain with vegetable sellers and other small business people. Does it make any sense to bargain for 4 or 5 Rupees commodities. What do those sellers get? They are very simple people and they make livelihood out of those. So give it a thought when you are bargaining with a fruit seller or vegetable seller on the road side. Do we bargain with the lady in Life Style or Shoppers Stop to reduce the price of the make up articles or add one more lip gloss or add little bit of cream to the purchased one? NEVER. This thought itself sound so cheap and downmarket. We buy such expensive things without speaking any single word. So next time when you are bargaining with a fruit seller or vegetable seller for 1 or 2 rupees…just give a thought to your bargaining and the actual amount of “gain” you are getting……
However, by doing all these, we may not bring drastic changes to the people in this universe, however, small things make difference :). By the way all these are not completely my tips or thoughts…some shared by friends..some shared by elders in the family…. Its time to give some thought to these…..and then practice them.